There may be many reasons grandparents are overbearing with children. Some may be motivated by fear. Some may fear that their grandchildren won't enjoy them if they don’t share more sweets with them or spend more time together. They might also want to make up for lost time with their grandchildren. Whatever the reason for their behavior, it's important we discuss boundaries and how to set them.
Narcissistic grandparents prefer cute (but defenseless) children
Narcissistic grandparents are able to hurt their grandchildren in many ways. Despite the fact that they may be generous and loving, they are often distant and abusive, which can result in a negative impact on the children. Narcissistic grandparents are known to punish their grandchildren using subtle methods such as ignoring or disregarding phone calls and emails.
Grandparents who are too involved want to get involved in everything
Overbearing grandparents often want to be involved with every aspect of their grandchildren’s lives. They want to be involved in all aspects of their grandchildren's lives, but they get carried away. There are ways to manage overbearing grandparents.
They can manipulate children.
Overbearing grandparents are often manipulative and disrespectful with children. They act as though they have the final word and challenge the authority of their parents. They often violate rules or lie about them. As a parent, it is vital that you avoid allowing toxic grandparents to influence your child.
They can make your insecure.
Insecurity can result from grandparents who are overbearing. Children can feel insecure if grandparents are constantly intruding on their lives and nagging about their behavior. These grandparents may also feel hurt when their grandchildren spend time together. Although they may be loving their grandchildren, they can be too judgmental, critical and manipulative to help them improve and grow.
They can make your feel incompetent.
If you are the parent of a young child, overbearing grandparents can be a big problem. Even though their behavior may seem innocent, it can have a significant impact on a child’s health and development. Toxic grandparents may speak negatively about their grandchildren. Sometimes they make their child angry by criticizing others or making fun of them. They may even refuse to admit that their child was using inappropriate equipment.
They can make your feel small
While you may be delighted to have your grandmothers for a visit there are some things that you should consider. First, they will likely have expectations about your visit. Both parents and grandparents have a responsibility for their children. It's reasonable to expect them both to meet your needs. However, they may not always see your adult status as obvious.
FAQ
What is the importance of good parenting?
Good parenting will help your children grow into happy, healthy adults who can face life's challenges. It teaches children how to make good decisions and take control of their lives.
Children learn to be self-controlled, manage their emotions and cope well with stress from parents who are good. They teach them how to set goals and achieve them.
They encourage their children to explore different interests and talents. They ensure that they have the opportunity and resources to succeed.
They treat all people equally and show respect for each other. They don't discriminate against anyone based on race, religion, gender or sexual orientation.
They create a safe environment for all members of the family.
How can I tell if my child needs more or less discipline?
Different developmental stages may require different amounts or discipline.
You may want to spank your child if your child is younger than two years.
You may find that your older child needs more structure and guidance.
Before making major parenting changes, it is important to discuss any changes in the behavior of your child with your doctor.
What is positive parenting?
Positive parenting styles are those which help children develop into happy, well-adjusted adults by teaching them how to behave constructively and positively towards others.
They teach children how stress and conflict can be managed, peacefully resolve conflicts, and deal effectively with disappointment.
Positive parenting also helps children to develop self-discipline as well as responsibility. It teaches them how to make decisions and solve problems on their own.
It encourages them take risks and to try new things. They learn to work hard for success.
Is it better to be a strict parent?
I believe you should strive to be a strict mother. Children need to learn how they behave. However, discipline is necessary if children are not being consistent.
It is important to show them proper behavior. You don't want them running wild and causing harm to others.
Being strict with your children is easier than being permissive. Your children will rebel if you let them have too much control.
However, if you give them too little freedom, they won't know how to behave themselves.
Although it is difficult to be a strict parent, I believe it is worth it.
Statistics
- Most adults will become parents at some point in their lives (i.e., around 89.6% of the adult population worldwide; Ranjan, 2015). (positivepsychology.com)
- Students from authoritative families were likelier to say that their parents–not their peers–would influence their decisions (Bednar and Fisher 2003). (parentingscience.com)
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How To
What can I do to discipline my child?
There are many ways to discipline a child, but remember that the goal of disciplining them is to get them to see why they did it wrong so they don’t do it again.
Here are some ideas:
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Your child should explain to you why they think they did something wrong.
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Give them time limits. Give them a time limit, such as "I'm going with you for 5 minutes to clean my room." If you haven't finished when the timer goes off, you'll have to stay after school."
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Praise good behavior.
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Don't punish bad behavior.
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Your child should be aware of the consequences for misbehaving.
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Reward instead of punishment. Rewards include praise, stickers, toys, etc.
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Set clear expectations for your child.
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Be consistent.
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Avoid shouting or yelling.
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Keep up the good work.
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Talk calmly and firmly to your child.
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Keep your emotions under control.
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Speak softly and don't shout.
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Show love and affection.
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Do not hit your child.
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It is important to take the time to fully explain your self.
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Remember that children are only small once in a lifetime.
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Promises must be kept.
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Listen to your child.
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Children aren't stupid, it is important to remember.
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Have patience.
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Your child shouldn't see you get angry.
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Keep calm.
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Encourage your child the freedom to express himself/herself.