Strict parents set rules for their children and don't give them much leeway to make mistakes. They expect their kids to be successful in school and in all other activities. They won't allow their children to leave the house for long periods of time and will not tolerate failure. They may also be obsessed with curfew.
Parenting by authority
An example of autoritarian parenting is when parents enforce strict rules and punish their children for breaking them. Parents who are autoritarian don't give their children the freedom to choose and discourage emotional relationships. They might spank their children if they take something from their home. They don't appreciate their children for their accomplishments and often set unrealistic expectations.
It is also known by the name stern parenting. This type of parenting doesn't allow the children to participate in making decisions and demands their complete obedience. They do not seek constructive feedback or engage in reasoning with their children. The parents' method of controlling children is to punish them harshly, often using fear and intimidation. This parenting style can lead to a child that is extremely focused and unable think outside of the box.
Minor mistakes are punished
Children can suffer psychological harm from parents who punish them for making a mistake. It also discourages emotional development, and may make a child more self-centered. Children may be more dishonest if they feel they have no choice but to lie or cheat to avoid getting punished.
Similar to the previous example, parents sometimes punish minor mistakes made by their children by not paying attention. This doesn't mean the parent isn’t concerned about the child. Parents can be strict with their children. However, many parents are flexible. If a child spills on the floor or makes a mistake, it could lead to trouble. A strict home will only use punishment if a child violates a rule set by the parent.
Two-way communication is lacking
A lack of communication between strict parents could have negative effects on their children's development. This kind of parenting can cause children to be more aggressive and to change their thinking processes. This can lead to children having low self-esteem and even lying. Children raised by strict parents are less likely be more outgoing and to make friends. Instead, they are strict parents who insist on following orders and are constantly critical.
Although one-way communication can have its place, it can prove to be too distracting for some children. A more effective approach is to make sure that parents and teachers have two-way communication. A teacher could call parents to discuss a child's performance in school and help them develop a plan.
The effects on children
Authoritarian parenting can be a problem for children. An authoritarian parent can cause a child to feel inferior and be constantly criticised. Children who are raised in such circumstances may have a negative view about authority and become more likely to be delinquent. Children who were raised by strict parents might not have the right emotional and social skills.
Stiff parenting teaches children to listen to their parents, rather than thinking for themselves. This can lead to children not being able to self-regulate and prevent them from developing self confidence. A strict home can also cause physical symptoms.
FAQ
Is it more important to be strict with your child?
You should be strict with your children. It's important for children to learn how to behave themselves. But if they aren't behaving well, they must be disciplined.
You have to teach them how to act properly. It is not a good idea to allow them to run wild, as they could endanger someone or do wrong.
Being strict with your children is easier than being permissive. They will rebel against you if you allow them too much freedom.
However, if you give them too little freedom, they won't know how to behave themselves.
Although it is difficult to be a strict parent, I believe it is worth it.
How can you tell if your child needs more discipline than others?
Different developmental stages may require different amounts or discipline.
If your child is very young (under about two years old), then he/she may benefit from being spanked occasionally.
Your child may require more structure and guidance if he/she is older.
Before you make any significant changes to your parenting style, you should talk with your doctor about changes in your child’s behavior.
What is positive parenting style?
Positive parenting styles encourage children to become happy, well-adjusted adults through positive and constructive behavior towards others.
They teach children how stress and conflict can be managed, peacefully resolve conflicts, and deal effectively with disappointment.
Positive parenting also helps children learn self-discipline and responsibility. They learn how to solve problems and make decisions on their own.
It encourages them to take risks and try new things. They learn to work hard for success.
Which parenting style should you be most proud of in America?
The traditional family isn't as popular today than it was 50 year ago, because of changes in families. It is becoming less common for parents to be involved in the raising of children. They are looking to spend more time with themselves than their children. This is known as helicopter parenting. It's where parents hover around their children 24/7. They are there to supervise them at all costs. They ensure they eat right, exercise, sleep at night, etc. This kind of parenting can create a lot of stress both for the kids and their parents. The kids feel like they're missing out, while the parents feel guilty that they're not there every day.
This parenting style doesn't teach children how to take good care of themselves. This type of parenting makes them dependent on adults for everything. Instead of teaching independence parents are teaching dependence. They teach their children that adult support is necessary for success. If they fail, they are responsible for their failures.
This leads to kids who grow up feeling inadequate and worthless. Because they failed to live up to their expectations, they believe they are failing. They lack self-confidence because they were not taught how to handle failure.
Another reason this parenting style isn't as popular is the decrease in two-parent households. Parents who work from home can find it difficult to be available for their children if both of them are working. Parents often end up raising their children on their own.
Parents want happy, healthy children. Parents don't want children worrying about how they are sleeping, eating, or exercising. They want to focus on their own lives. That's why they hire nannies, tutors, and other caregivers to watch after their kids.
They don’t want any control over their child’s lives. They don't want to teach their children that mistakes are inevitable. They want their kids to learn from mistakes and attempt again.
Statistics
- Dr. Phil says, “Children should be able to predict with absolute certainty, what will happen as a result of their behavior, 100% of the time.” (parenting.kars4kids.org)
- Most adults will become parents at some point in their lives (i.e., around 89.6% of the adult population worldwide; Ranjan, 2015). (positivepsychology.com)
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How To
How to raise your baby
A baby needs love, affection, understanding, patience, discipline, time, support, and guidance. The mother must provide these things for her child. She must provide food, clothing and shelter for her child. These are not things that come automatically when she is caring for a newborn. These are important for any baby.
All babies are dependent on love. However, not all babies need the same amount. You must give your baby the love he needs to grow up happy, healthy, well-adjusted and well.
It is important to follow the advice given by doctors who are experienced in taking care of children. You will be a blessing to your child if you do.